The first piece of advice that I can recall getting is “Advice is like a**holes, everyone has one and they all stink.”
At the time, it felt a bit funny to me but it all makes sense now based on life experiences so far.
As humans, we always know what we want to do but we go to friends, mentors and family to get “advice.” We just want to hear from their mouths that we are doing is right.
When someone gives you advice that is similar to what you really want to do, you think it’s good advice.
There’s no such thing as “good advice.” The people who are really helpful are the ones that ask you the right questions to help you think through a decision. They are the ones who are not telling you what to do, they lead you to what you should be doing based on your situation.
There’s an influx of “inspirational” quotes on our facebook, twitter, Instagram accounts. The ones that we end up liking are the ones that fit with our mindset. We basically want someone to tell us that we are right. What we don’t realize is there is probably a quote for each situation.
If you want to go for something, you will like a quote that tells you to keep trying. If you don’t want to do something, you will like a quote that tells you to move on because there are better things waiting for you.
When you get advice from a person, listen to those that say “in my experience, this is what worked.” This way you know that something worked for them but doesn’t necessarily mean that it will work for you. Most of the times, though, people will tell you “do x” because it worked for them without realizing that everyone has a different story to write.
Personally, I’ve decided to make decisions on two things: happiness and regret. If it makes me happy, I will do it. I would rather do what my gut tells me than regret later. It’s that simple.
Everyone is different so you can never follow the textbook advice that some Instagram account is telling you or what some friend is telling you.